Sunday, February 23, 2014

There I said it.

I feel alone in my relationship.

There I said it.

I am not saying it is true, I am not saying that is how things are I am saying that is how I FEEL.  It does not mean that I am alone in my relationship. It means that for whatever reason due to my life up to this point I look at my relationship and I feel alone.

I don't like that he talks to people, probably mostly women all night while I am asleep. I don't like that I almost always go to bed alone and spend most of the night by myself. I don't like that I work and go to school and still do all the cooking and the dishes and the house. I don't like that I don't feel pretty enough for him and that I know he doesn't really love me.

That's not fair.

I don't know that he doesn't love me.

He very well could.

I doubt it.

But he could.

I don't like that I feel this way and I am not sure how to stop it. Well, I mean, I know some people would say to simply tell myself that I'm being a self centered prat and stop thinking it.

I wish it was that easy people.

I don't like that I can't trust him, much less myself.  I don't like that I have to do all this for a relationship that I feel alone in.

It makes me resentful, it makes me wish he would just leave.

There is more to life than this?


I mean, in a perfect world you would have a guy who would hold you until you fall asleep, who'd be in bed with you when you wake up in the morning and who wouldn't stay up all night talking on Facebook to other people.  Who wouldn't constantly make you feel, through just the things he says and does that you are not good enough. Clarification on that last point- he is not doing them intentionally, that I know of. He is just being himself and it is me that is reading what I read into them.  If I am wrong and he is doing them intentionally then he needs to be shot. That's serial manipulation right there and should be fucking illegal.

Who would remember to do the dishes the one time you ask him to after you'd been through a horrible woman's doctor appointment and the thought of standing at the sink literally brought tears to your eyes.

And you are the one who is made to feel bad when you call him a lazy fuck.

I know there are people who have it worse than me. That the last thing I should be is bitching and whining about a relationship that I continue to stay in.

That's my own personal hell.

The standing joke is that I find the nearest asshole within a 500 mile radius and have to be with him no matter what.

Good to know my powers aren't wavering.

The thing I can't stand is that I know, to an extent, these feelings are complete bullshit.

They're just stupid and yet I feel them.

One of the things I am learning is to not belittle how I feel. I feel it for a reason. I need to look at that feeling and try to find out why I feel the way I feel and to try and figure out what needs to happen so that I can turn that feeling into something strong, something to build on,something positive.

I'm not good at this yet.

In fact I suck at it.

There. I said it.

*This post is mainly for me. If you find yourself in a similar situation and find comfort in my words you're welcome. If you have anything negative to say, save your breath, I've already told myself worse that you could ever type.

Tuesday, February 18, 2014

Coffee Snob

There is a coffee place in town called Coffee Waves...for MONTHS all I heard was "Coffee Waves, Coffee Waves, yayaya...." now me...I've been a DEVOTED Starbucks fan for...well.....ever....the only thing that can make me NOT go to Starbucks is one of two things.

1. My bestie Heather making me coffee in the mornings (she's the bomb and she's usually in her skivs so win win)


2. I'm broke- cause face it. Starbucks is NOT cheap. In the lease. So I look for ways to EARN Starbucks Gift Cards for FREE online. I do this on several sites because all it takes is a bit of my time and I get to reap the steaming white mocha rewards. Venti please. Extra whip.

How do i get starbucks gift card you make ask? One site and my current favorite is InstaGC.  Seriously wicked easy and not like most sites where you have to do soooooo many things to earn even a point. You get points for listening to the radio. The radio. Yeah. Just tune into their station and let the music soothe your ragged soul..... or distract you from working in my case.

So what are you waiting for? Hope on over. Sign up. Remember to confirm your email and start earning some serious points.

Don't like Starbucks? That's fine! That have a ton of vendors such as, Bath & Body Works, Yankee Candle....etc....its' easy to pick your poison!

So what are you waiting for?

Sign up already!

How old is Grandma?

Stay with this -- the answer is at the end... It will blow you away.

One evening a grandson was talking to his grandmother
About current events.

The grandson asked his grandmother what she thought
About the shootings at schools, the computer age, and
Just things in general.

The Grandmother replied, "Well, let me think a minute,

I was born before:

 polio shots 
 frozen foods 
 contact lenses 
 Frisbees and 
 the pill 

There were no:

 credit cards 
 laser beams or 
 ball-point pens 

Man had not
 yet invented:

 air conditioners 
 clothes dryers 
 and the clothes were hung out to dry in the fresh air and 
 man hadn't yet walked on the moon

Your Grandfather and I got married first, and then lived together.
Every family had a father and a mother.

Until I was 25, I called every man
 older than me, "Sir."

And after I turned 25, I still called
 policemen and every man
 a title, "Sir."

We were before gay-rights,
 computer-dating, dual careers, daycare centers, and group therapy.

Our lives were governed by the Ten
 Commandments, good judgment, and common sense.

We were taught to know the
 difference between right and
 and to stand up and take responsibility for our actions.

Serving your country was a privilege; living
 in this country was
A bigger privilege.

We thought fast food was what people
 ate during Lent.

Having a meaningful relationship
 meant getting along with
Your cousins.

Draft dodgers were those who closed front
 doors as the
Evening breeze started.

Time-sharing meant time the family
 spent together in the
 and weekends — not purchasing condominiums.

We never heard of FM radios, tape decksCD's, electric typewriters, yogurt, or guys wearing earrings.

We listened to Big Bands, Jack Benny,
 and the President's speeches on our radios.

If you saw anything with 'Made in Japan '
 on it, it was junk.

The term 'making out' referred to how
 you did on your school exam.

Pizza Hut, McDonald's,
 and instant coffee were unheard of.
We had 5 &10-cent (5 and dime) stores where you could actually buy things for 5 and 10 cents.

Ice-cream cones, phone calls, rides on a streetcar,
 and a Pepsi were all a nickel.

And if you didn't want to splurge, you could
 spend your nickel on enough stamps to mail 1 letter and 2 postcards.

You could buy a new Ford Coupe for $600,
 but who could
Afford one? Too bad, because gas was 11 cents a gallon.

In my day:

 "grass" was mowed, 
 "coke" was a cold drink, 
 "pot" was something your mother cooked in and 
 "rock music" was your grandmother's lullaby. 
 "Aids" were helpers in the Principal's office,
 "chip" meant a piece of wood,
 "hardware" was found in a hardware store and.
 "software" wasn't even a word.

We were the last generation to actually believe that a lady needed a husband to have a baby.
We volunteered to protect our precious country.
No wonder people call us "old and confused" and say there is a generation gap.

How old do you think I am?

Read on to see -- pretty scary if you think about it and pretty sad at the same time.

Are you

This woman would be only 61 years old.
She would have been born in late 1952.


Friday, February 14, 2014

Valentines Day

Ah Yes,

The Hallmark Holiday! The day when guys have to dole out tons of cash to makes us girls happy and in return we show our appreciation at home.....after the lights go out....

This is the way it has been for- who knows how many years?

Well I personally think its a bunch of bullshit.

I don't want a guy who goes out of his way to show me he loves me one day out of the year by buying me a fancy dinner or whatever.

You want to show me you love me? Do the dishes for a load of laundry...pick the clothes up off the floor....make dinner!

That's how I know you love me- not by you taking me out to eat at some place we really can't afford.....

Besides.....when a guy spends a ton of money on you he naturally expects you to put out....and yeah....I want to have romantic liaisons with my guy because I love him and I want to share that experience with him. Not because he bought me shiney things....I am not a shiney thing prostitute...unless that shiney thing is a #Kitchenaid Stand Mixer  that I've wanted for like 6 years....then I'm sooooo a shiney thing prostitute...

Just Kidding....




Tuesday, February 11, 2014

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Monday, February 10, 2014

Yeah- I coupon- why don't you?

So several years ago I use to coupon hard core- I also had more room than I have now, more time than I have now and well more of everything that what I have now. But my friend Maria got me back into and this weekend we decided we were going to hit the stores and see what deals we could grab.

Well Stores ended up being CVS. I love CVS and there is one right next to my house so that makes it even better. Saving money and saving gas- win win!

I did three trips this weekend and here is my haul:

First Trip-

OOP- $7.48  TMC- Approximately $52

Second trip was after work...didn't grab as much but came out better with the OOP cost:

$1.77 OOPS   TMC- Approx $15-$20

My Last trip I got some big items, namely the Aveeno which retail for $7.49 a pop- and the Crest BE which is $4.99 a box. 
OOP:  $20.24  TMC: $53


All Laundry Pods- 4
Edge Shaving Cream- 4
Skintamite Shaving Cream- 1
Toothpaste- 6
Mouthwash- 2
Dawn Dish Soap- 8
Aveeno Body Wash- 3
Playtex Sport- 1

Approximate Cost of Merchandise: $125.00
Total Out of Pocket Cost: $29.49

That is 24% of the total cost meaning I saved 76%.

Yeah- I love couponing...

So yeah- I coupon.....

And why aren't you?